Monday, June 01, 2009

The Summer Of The Orange Life Jackets

(I just came across this and realized it's never been published. Our Y camps begin tomorrow and I'm excited...and terrified. This is a slice of what it was like year one)
It seemed so simple in February when we were putting dates on the calendar..

I would have my regular coaching responsibilities along with the YMCA camp. It would mean one week of three a day coaching. Simple. Yeah.

And so it became the summer of the orange lifejacket. July of 2008 that is…hot and humid beyond belief. A good Midwestern summer. Why we decided July would be a good month to do this for the first time is beyond me. Oh my, it was hot. Sweat running off the tip of your nose hot.

We had arranged to teach rowing to 8-12 year olds as part of an outdoor camp through the YMCA. About 75 kids in two week sessions. Two camps. Four weeks. Yikes.

We had no idea what we were doing.

I mean, we knew how to teach rowing. I’d been coaching for, well, a very long time. And Kenny was a new coach but not new to teaching kids. His coaching instincts were sharp and I knew we could teach the rowing. We’d taught hundreds of Learn To Rows.

But to little kids? And let me tell you some of those kids were dinky…and it was hot.

We decided to teach in eights. They would be required to wear lifejackets and I knew they wouldn’t be big enough to get the necessary clearance in our quads. We had an old shoenbroad and we borrowed an eight from a local college. So, yeah, little kids in eights.

Crazy.

First challenge, getting the boats to the water. The camp was held during the workday and our volunteer crew was very limited. We decided to utilize the camp counselors and teach the kiddos how to carry big heavy boats.

About 16 little kids can pick up an eight, get it to shoulders and with a great deal of help from some grownups get it out of the compound and to the dock. Pretty impressive.

Now we talked to the kids about carrying it on their shoulders. But when the boat was on our shoulders it obviously didn’t touch theirs. The first day we walked the short distance to the dock and I couldn’t figure out why the boat was so dang heavy…day two and I was a little smarter. The kids were trying to get the boat to their shoulders, or their shoulders to the boat, hanging on...pulling down. We were carrying the eight and about 16 little kids. Can I just say HEAVY! And oh yeah…it was hot, really hot.

Kenny and I had a plan for the first day. “Let’s just get them to full slide by fours,” we agreed. Having taught many new adult and high school rowers we felt like this should be a good plan.

We didn’t figure in the crying.

Scared kids. Boats are scary. Big tippy boats are really scary. We loaded them in explaining the getting in and out process, ‘step here, don’t step here.’ ‘Hold on to your oar.’

We let them sit at the dock that first day. Starting up tight to the dock, slowly moving out to sit flat in the water while we held their blade tips. Let them feel how they could control the side to side movement of the boat.

We lost a few to the tears that first day. It had to be a little overwhelming. We’d let them get out. Tell them they could try again tomorrow. Let them watch. Didn’t push.

The last eight of that first day was doing well. I’d learned some things with the earlier groups. I really felt like they could leave the dock, maybe just float out a ways, maybe take strokes one by one. As I began to release the oar tip I was holding one little guy asked in a slightly panicked voice “You’re not coming with us??” Explaining that I would be right with them in the coaches boat we let them go.

And there they were. Nine little kids in a big eight. Sitting with slightly terrified looks on their faces. Oar handles grasped tight to their orange lifejackets.

“Stripe Up!” we’d say. Referring to the striped strap on the life jacket. If all oar handles were held right at the stripe the boat would balance. Unless you were a littler kiddo, then you needed your handle above the stripe. Important stuff.

Slowly they took their first strokes. One and then two at a time. We talked about timing, watching elbows, imagining table tops to slide the oars across, square, feather, feather, square. They laughed at the term ‘weigh enough’ but picked up most rowing lingo quickly. Smart little sponges.

Days two and three of that long, hot first week got progressively easier. We let a few of the bigger kids help lift the boats but the grownups did all of the carrying. We got everyone away from the dock. Most everyone was rowing. There were quarrels over who got to sit in the coxswain seat, who got to ride in the coaching launch. It was fun. And frankly, amazing.

A group of rotten boys, you know the ones, they make the counselors who’ve spent all summer with them crazy, this group of boys stole my heart. Blake and Chris, Michael and Connor, Jeremy and Matt, Troy and Joe. They talked too much. They didn’t pay attention. They goofed around. But they also fell over each other if I asked for help. Wanted to be in the boat I would coach. I liked them, too.

On the final day of their camp they were all put in one boat. Just for me.

We went way out into the lake. The middle of the big lake. Little boys in orange lifejackets.

And they rowed. All the way back to the dock. All eight.

So today we began camp two. 42 new orange life jackets. It’s easier this week.

Our learning curve is not so steep. The counselors know what to expect. Kenny and I know what the kids are capable of learning. We, almost, have a system. It’s still hot and there’s a new group of rotten little boys.

A reporter asked me today what it was that we were teaching. “By watching you might think that we are teaching rowing,” I replied as sweat dripped off my nose. “But actually, we are teaching courage and confidence and team work. It really has very little to do with rowing.”

Welcome Back Summer

Summer arrived at 4:45 this morning...well for me it did anyway. Today was the first day of summer practice.

Summer arrived as I stumbled out of bed thankful for automatic coffee makers and rethinking the whole 'going decaf' thing.

Summer arrived with bleary eyed teenagers sleep walking out of their cars... slowly waking up as they carried oars to the dock.

Summer arrived as we talked about schedules and goals and boatings.

Summer arrived as one by one they volunteered to help with the Y camp that begins tomorrow.

Summer arrived as we parted after practice, awake, energized, having done more before 8am than many will do all day.

Summer arrived as I returned home to the AC, showered and got back in my jammies. Curling up with the puppers and a good book, knowing that this afternoon I go back and do it all over again and again tomorrow morning and again, and again, and again.

Welcome back summer.

Sunday, May 31, 2009

To The Guy In The White Van


To the white van that I followed all the way to work this morning.
(On a Sunday when my drive to work is traffic free and lovely...usually)


Your annoying observance of the speed limit is probably not going to help you when they catch you running those stop signs.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

How Long?

So the other day I was taking a survey. One of those that asks your sex, age, race....marital status.

I was given four options:

  1. Married
  2. Divorced
  3. Widowed
  4. Single never married

These questions always bring up an issue for me.

I don't consider myself divorced. It's been so long...almost three times longer than the actual marriage.

And I've never been one to spend a lot of time bad mouthing the ex...not that he doesn't deserve some bad mouthing...but again...it's been soooo long. What really would be the point.

So back to the survey. I always answer 'Single'. I always have a little guilt. But that lessens with time.

I guess I'd like this option:

Single Doesn't Even Remember Being Married

A Few More Lovelies...

I have a few minutes this week before the madness begins...the Orange Life Jacket Gang will be at the lake Tuesday at 9am...3 weeks of little YMCA kids in boats...God help us. These are the same gerber daisies from the other day but a new bloom...actually a siamese twin bloom came up...cool!
These are in two pots next to my side gate...
I've got a colorful thing going on in the front garden. And finally...my crazy mutant columbine...Some are almost 4 feet tall...not even kidding.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

The Last Day Of School

I picked the little darlings up today when school was dismissed for the summer. Andrew finished his first grade year and now is a second grader.
Austin finished his sophomore year and hopefully will be a junior next year. (just kidding Aus:-)) And he even agreed to hang out with his little brother and crazy aunt for an afternoon.
He looks pretty thrilled.
We planned a nice bike ride along what we refer to as the Sonic trail...because at one end there is a...Sonic! It makes for a nice turning around place. A little ice cream and a ride back.
There were some beautiful wild flowers along the way...the boys let me stop and take pictures.
And there are two playgrounds and we stop at both...both times we pass. As you can see, we like the swings.

Monday, May 25, 2009

A Few Lovelies From My Yard

I often miss the Peonies as they bloom around Memorial day and we are usually in Texas....This year I'm enjoying their happy pinkness.
Aren't they beauties?
And these darlings are new this year. So far they are my favorite.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

What My Day Looked Like


The Newest Boy

My cousin Janet is a Grandma....I think she's diggin it.
My house wench Amanda is an Aunt. Austin is trying to eat her chin. I think she's diggin it.
I noticed that the best pictures of this little guy are when he's asleep. Because it's the only time I can get him in focus. He's a mover.
Again...asleep.
And at last...a cute crawl by smile.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

He's In

Goodnight.

I have some snuggling to do.

Home

It's possible to be so relieved I'm in tears and so freakin mad at him that I just want to leave him out another night.

I heard Jack about 9pm when I went out to the car. Almost two hours later I still haven't gotten him to come in. He's so scared he won't come near me. I have all the doors open so he can just come in.

So here I am. On the edge of the hood. At almost 11pm. Laying on the couch with the front door wide open, the garage door wide open, the dog door propped open.

I'm giving him until midnight then I'm going to bed.

Now that I know he's alive...I more likely to just be irritated at him for being such a freak.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Missing

Since sometime overnight yesterday.
Freakin out just a little.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

A Lot Of Pictures, A Few Words

So many of you know how crazy busy the last two weeks have been...lots of brother drama, two regattas, trucks reserved but not available, parents in town, party for my dad...yikes.

I've taken a lot of pictures and just simply didn't have the energy to make each one it's own post so here you go.
Two Fridays ago I spent some time running around with my friend Dave (who then loaned me his truck to get my boats to Topeka for a Regatta...Thanks Dave!).

One of the places we went was home to this little darling and her mother. Her name is Ruby and she is the sweetest little thing.

Her mom Princess is pretty sweet, too.

My kids missed a prom when we traveled to Austin so they had a 'fake' prom in the hotel after racing on Saturday. Aren't they darling.


We had some bumps and didn't advance out of the finals in any of our races but they did enjoy each other's company and everyone had an opportunity for growth and learning ('growth' and 'learning' is coach speak for we got our butts kicked)

They are, however, still the neatest people I know.

Then I hopped on a plane and flew home to spend the evening with these great people.

Sisters are amazing...I wish everyone had one as great as mine.


It was so amazing to see and meet the folks my dad has worked with and people who love him as much as we do.

Sunday morning I met with some gals I rowed with in college. WE got out on the Kaw for an alumni row.

We almost remembered how....


So that's it...carry on.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

For MUD

I patted him on his cute little head, put him outside the fence and haven't seen him since.

Sorry to keep you in suspense...been a little busy here...

Thursday, May 07, 2009

Nervous

They are nervous...and so am I. We've practiced our starts.
They look good, don't they?

Okay...well...they're teenage boys...what'd you expect.


They've worked hard.

Taken the strokes.

They just need good luck and positive vibes.



...can you send them some?

Tuesday, May 05, 2009

Too Funny Not To Share

So...some of you will recognize this as my bedroom.
Most of you will notice that this is most certainly NOT my dog.
I left this morning at 10am.
Returning just now around 3pm, I opened the door to my bedroom and found this very sweet, cute little fellow. Seems to be some Corgi cousin of Maggie's.
So what did I do? Closed the door quickly and ran to get my camera, of course!
No idea how he got in...I'm sure it was in the leaving process while trying to wrangle all the critters out.
He apparently napped all afternoon on my bed.
Weird....

Oh Yeah...

The mean dog eats poop.

Gross.

I Have A Dryer!

Things are drying as I type.

I know I'm supposed to be the green one.

I know I said yesterday that a dryer really isn't all that important.

But I am so excited to have things tumbling around in the basement!

Yeah me.

Monday, May 04, 2009

Boy, Oh Boy, Oh Boy

Oh my, what a very long week.

This week I have learned:

How much I love my brother.

How strong my sister is.

What a wonderful woman my brother chose to love.

How terribly lucky he is that she loves him.

How great and supportive my parents are...all four of them.

How little sleep I can still function with.

Stress is a very effective diet. (not one I recommend but hey...I'm not gonna complain)

Having someone do your laundry is such a wonderful kindness. (Thank you Carrie and Manda)

I don't need an alarm clock with River living here.

I need chocolate in my life.

My kids are really amazing and they actually are listening to what I'm trying to teach them.

I hate the rain.

If you put on wet tennis shoes...they never dry.

Living without a dryer is only as big an inconvenience as you let it be.

The mean dog can jump over the fence but only does if I lock the dog door.

Kids get excited over medals...doesn't matter what color.

And I'm sure I learned some other things too.......

Friday, May 01, 2009

The Thing Is...It IS My Brother

Really...that's what this crazy week has been about.

Mom and Julia (Bob's girl for those of you who don't know) and I were in the car yesterday talking about Grandma Petty (Mz Virginia) and her ability to send prayer straight to the big guy's ears.

We were apprehensive about letting everyone know exactly what was going on. Wanting to protect him, not embarrass him...respect his privacy.

But the thing is...he's sick. He's really sick and he has been for a very long time.

Monday his sickness almost killed him. It's not the kind of sickness he needs medication for...as a matter of fact...medication is his sickness.

If he were physically ill with a regular, see a physician kind of illness...we'd alert the troops. Everyone would pray...send him good vibes. Love him, support him.

He still needs that. Maybe more than if he were physically ill.

This cannot be a secret. Secrets are what almost killed him. That and the many, many pills he took to numb the pain that he feels from demons we can't even imagine.

Bob is an addict. He has had an addiction to prescription medication for many, many, many years. Before that he was addicted to illegal drugs.

Yesterday he said it out loud. "I'm addicted to prescription medication".

Pray for him. Pray that he has the courage to do the work to learn how to cope with his demons. Pray that he has the strength to make a choice, everyday for the rest of his life. A choice to live.

He will spend the next several weeks with people who can help him.

And he needs to spend the rest of his life with his friends and family who love him and will support him.

Mz Virginia...start those prayers.